Jul
5
2014

The art of Marriage …in Nigeria.

My young niece, Bukky (i.e. Bukola), is getting married today. Better still, the wedding ceremony is taking place today since the formal marriage vows were exchanged two days ago at the Marriage Registry. So, it’s boogie time today! Incidentally, I jokingly call my niece “Boogie”, because that’s how her late grandfather used to pronounce her name (laughs). Bukky’s wedding reminds me of some one-and-a-half-decade ago when I also tied the knot with my wife. Coincidentally, [...]

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Jul
4
2014

The Hen, the Duck, and the Hawk

Each time I have cause to write this type of post, one Yoruba proverb or the other usually comes to mind. Proverb preaches wisdom, and that’s why I’m always proud of being a Yoruba man. We have proverbs (wisdom) in abundance. The appropriate proverb for this post is, “Lowe lowe la n lulu agidigbo, ologbon lo n jo, omoran ni tumo re, ewe koko la fi se awo re, igi ganmu ganmu la a fi [...]

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Jul
3
2014

Decide. Commit. Succeed.

I came across these three words recently and they struck a chord with me straightaway. In my younger years, I experienced what you too probably felt at that stage of your life. I was in constant search for the ever elusive “secret of success.” My vigorous search got encouraged by all those enticing adverts we used to read in the newspapers of those days – most especially the Lagos Weekend newspaper. At that time, the [...]

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Jun
27
2014

It’s not What You Think

Life & Living

“Good evening, uncle.” “Hey, good evening, my dear. How you dey?” “I’m fine, uncle.” “You’re not looking bright, what’s the problem?” “Nothing sir. I’m fine.” “Of course, you’re not. I’m smart enough to know that when we say, ‘I’m fine’ in Nigeria, we actually mean the opposite. So, tell me, what’s the issue?” “Well, you’re right, uncle. I’m not very fine. I’m so worried.” “Oya nah, tell me. What’s the matter? I’m all ears.” “See, [...]

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Jun
23
2014

Lessons from Brazil

Life & Living

I hope you’re learning some lessons from the ongoing soccer world cup tournament in Brazil. A number of matches have been played and a keen observer can easily draw some lessons from the behavior of those players on the field. We have seen teams that were down in the first and second half of their games only to end up winning the matches. I watched one of such matches where a team actually won at [...]

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Jun
14
2014

Placebos and You

Life & Living

It is the season of soccer stories and debates. FIFA 2014 World Cup tournament started in Brazil a few days ago and since then (even months before then) soccer fans have been telling different stories about who is going to win the cup – as if they know for sure. I witnessed such a story earlier today when some guys were debating the match between Uruguay and Costa Rica hours before the kickoff time. Each [...]

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Jun
9
2014

Politeness

A friend was with me in the car recently and his phone rang just a few minutes into our journey. One of his employees was on the line. “Why? Dele why?” he shouted on the phone. My friend was obviously upset with Dele. “You see,” he continued, “I’ve always told you about this big problem of yours, Dele. I’ve said it before and I will repeat it again: Dele, you’re too polite to people. Look, there is no room [...]

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Jun
1
2014

Popular vs. Important

When it comes to the issue of personality, the argument is usually that a popular person is also an important personality. Yet, this may not be absolutely correct as someone may not necessarily be popular but very important. That’s for personality. We often make the mistake of equating the two in other instances, whereas both popularity and importance don’t always co-exist. The fact that everyone is on Facebook makes it very popular. Yet, it does [...]

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May
30
2014

You Are the Key…

Life & Living

A couple of weeks ago, I had cause to stop by at one of the Tastee Chicken outlets for a quick bite. Hung on the wall right before me was this banner here. I read the inscription twice and started wondering. ‘What could have necessitated this?’ ‘What message is Tastee Chicken trying to pass here?’ ‘Is this a kind of warning or what?’ Subconsciously, I became an instant photographer. I took the picture of the banner [...]

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May
26
2014

Monday Morning Tonic

Life & Living

In my environment here in Nigeria, the word “tonic” is powerful. It invokes rejuvenation. So, when you appear somehow frail, a friend would advise you to buy some blood tonic to drink. Many consumers of Guinness stout fall in love with it because they believe it’s a form of tonic that gives energy. This may not be unconnected with the fact that the drink actually looks like a blood tonic. As someone who has been [...]

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